Creating space to pause, reflect and share experiences with dying and death

Grief

Grief

Connections made can be as strong

Connections made can be as strong

We hadn’t spoken for a long time before the last time, then I found out that you had passed away. You taught me that the connections made can be as strong as one of family. I’m now writing this with chosen family of my own. I miss

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But it’s too late

But it’s too late

My mom and dad always phoned me at inconvenient times. I was always so busy with my life. Now they’re gone I often think: “Oh I should tell them this”…or…”Now would be a perfect afternoon to call them.” But it’s too late. So many things I didn’t

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Rainbows remind me of you

Rainbows remind me of you

I miss you… you’ve been gone almost 10 years but I still miss you. I still want to call you or send you an email. I miss your smile and our talks. I regret not going to the hospital early that day & not seeing you one

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I wished I knew her better

I wished I knew her better

I lost my mother in-law this past week. She died suddenly and lives in another province. It was difficult for my husband to lose his mother but for me I had wished I knew her better. If only we visited her more often or talked to her

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Dementia is such a hard illness

Dementia is such a hard illness

My mom died a year ago after a 7 year journey with dementia. While extremely difficult to watch in real-time, the loss of a woman I admired for her intelligence, joy of life, love of language and devotion to her children, I learned to treasure when she

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I grew up living with my grandparents

I grew up living with my grandparents

Death is a part of us living to understand that family and friends move beyond. I grew up living with my grandparents in a culture that I was born to that taught me to respect my elders & to take care of them. When they died especially

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I am sorry

I am sorry

To my aunt and godmother who was a shining light in my life, I am sorry to not have found a hospice program or house for you in your last days-w all though you’d be with us much longer.

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I’m sorry

I’m sorry

I’m sorry I’m not with you right now I love you

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I sit in the dark and wait

I sit in the dark and wait

I am a visitor in Grief’s house. My path brought me here and I’ve slipped through the open door But I find no place to rest here I sit in the dark and wait as I listen for a voice That will never be heard again I

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December is a hard month

December is a hard month

I have lost 4 family members in less than 10 years – 2 sisters with breast to bone – both in the same month/yr. December is a hard month. 3 deaths not present for due to time & distance and one death – my Dad’s with no pain

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