Death is a part of us living to understand that family and friends move beyond. I grew up living with my grandparents in a culture that I was born to that taught me to respect my elders & to take care of them. When they died especially my grandfather I grieved but had the strength of memories to carry me through. In the culture that I adopted seeing the lack of respect & care of elders is so sad & disheartening. This disconnect in my two worlds is difficult to reconcile.