Creating space to pause, reflect and share experiences with dying and death

Grief

Grief

I went in bush alone and I cried

I went in bush alone and I cried

I asked my Dad why he didn’t cry when Grandpa passed. He responded, “I went in bush alone and I cried.”

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I see your spirit

I see your spirit

Mom; Oh to be able to call you again. I see your spirit in my sisters…your smile your color of hair…your eyes. I know you are still in my heart Thank you for your last “I’m proud of you & I love you” I’ll never forget how

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So much love and laughter

So much love and laughter

I lost two very special people in my life in 2014. A close family friend suddenly, Sept 22, and my mother-in-law to cancer Nov 4th. I was with them at their bedside when they passed and will always treasure how they brought so much love and laughter

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His Alzheimer’s disease confused me

His Alzheimer’s disease confused me

My grandfather lost his mind before he died. I was a little child girl and I did not really understand why he thought I was a boy. His Alzheimer’s disease confused me (too!) and I was afraid. I wish I had more time with him when he

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We should have come together

We should have come together

Nana, I’m so sorry for the lack of response when caring for your pain. Family torn at the bedside, yelling & fighting when we should have come together to ensure your comfort & continue to love and support you in your final moments with us! Love you

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I am angry at him for this

I am angry at him for this

My father died alone of cancer. He chose to drive his family away at the end. He was found unresponsive on his living room floor. I am angry at him for this. I miss him with all my heart. My kids miss him too. I love that

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I was afraid

I was afraid

As a young child I didn’t attend my best friends’ mother’s funeral. She died of breast cancer and I was afraid. I didn’t understand what was happening and no one explained to me that attending was a great way to help/show love. I still regret missing that

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One day I will hear you say it

One day I will hear you say it

— Pepere The thought of never telling you that I loved you hurts everyday I tell you that in hope that one day that I will hear you say it one last time. Love you.

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I am filled with gratitude

I am filled with gratitude

It is rarely ‘or’ But always ‘and’ I miss my brother And I am filled With gratitude that He is at last at peace.

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The next experience of death

The next experience of death

I realize how sorry I was that I couldn’t “help” my mother-in-law on her last week of life. Thinking about all the issues, how to talk about it, could certainly help with the next experience of death.

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