Creating space to pause, reflect and share experiences with dying and death

Caregiving

Caregiving

I knew I would not be coming back

I knew I would not be coming back

My PSW beginning I worked with a lady in private home care. She is the reason why I became a nurse. I cared for her for three years a became a part of the family. I worked with her everyday. She was non-verbal but I was able

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A young girl taking on adult responsibilities

A young girl taking on adult responsibilities

A young caregiver growing up too fast you were 10 years old when you found out your grandmother had Alzheimer’s, within 6 mths you grandfather tragically passed leaving family to care for your grandmother. You honorarly and thoughtfully stepped into action, you bathed her, dressed her, fed

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After the loss of her son

After the loss of her son

I was caring for a young adult that had been critically injured. Facility was not PFCC, however, I let pt’s mother/father at bedside due to pt’s precarious situation. Pt passed away. One year later, after the loss of her son, pt’s mother came back to facility to

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I look back to that night

I look back to that night

The first patient who passed in my presence….. 5 y.o boy…I thought I will never go back to nursing, instead I am in palliative care. Whenever I am in doubt of what I am doing in life I look back to that night, to that little boy

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The nurses held her hand

The nurses held her hand

The nurses worked collaboratively to care for a mother of 2. She was 38 years old. The nurses held her hand, took pictures and helped to keep her pain free. There is a picture of her on our tree in the office with her husband and children.

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I needed to be with him

I needed to be with him

When my son was dying, I needed to be with him at all moments. I needed to continue to be his caregiver. I needed to be able to not follow typical hospital rules.

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The kids used their emergency kit

The kids used their emergency kit

About 5 years ago a team of nurses was supporting a 40ish year old man in his palliative care. He wanted to die at home with his family. He had 2 young children and he had very high chances of bleeding out. The nurse worked with the

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A good death has a few key moments

A good death has a few key moments

As a caregiver I have been witness to a “good” death and a “bad” death. A good death has a few key moments Understanding/honesty Preparation/pain control Love from all that surround Acceptance from all that surround A bad death although at times unavoidable follows the living far

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What an honour it was to hold your hand

What an honour it was to hold your hand

Mom, You brought me into this world. What an honour it was to hold your hand and exchange care giver roles as you allowed me to hold you as you left this world. I reflect on that time as the most sincere and loving between is- forever

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Their passing was not easy

Their passing was not easy

Their passing was not easy, and not free of pain due to resources not being available. When people pass in their homes, especially cancer patients making sure that whatever medications to make the transition pain free is crucial.

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