Creating space to pause, reflect and share experiences with dying and death

Grief

Grief

Arriving at her home

Arriving at her home

When my sister passed a DNR was not in place. She was terminal with breast cancer. Arriving at her home and meeting a police officer in the driveway telling me my mother had died was not a positive experience. Seeing her at the hospital with the resuscitation

Read story

Until we meet again

Until we meet again

My last visit to see you at St Joes hospital was not was I expected. I opened the door and went in your room. I was in shock. Was I in the right room? You were zipped in a bag, a room that was very quiet. I

Read story

The most joyful and painful day

The most joyful and painful day

Losing my dad the same day in fact almost exactly 12 hours after the birth of my grandson was the most joyous and painful day I’ve experienced.

Read story

I miss all the fun you had

I miss all the fun you had

My loss of my mother is not physical. She suffers from severe dementia and does not know me. Mom, I miss all the fun you had with me and Keri. The time you picked Keri up in a clown costume at Halloween was the best! Your grandaughter

Read story

You wish you could take the pain for them

You wish you could take the pain for them

Its hard to watch a loved one go through their stages alone. You feel helpless because you don’t know what they are experiencing. Your only a spectater. You wish you could take the pain for them. Just to give them a break from their reality. Waiting for

Read story

I slept on the floor beside her bed

I slept on the floor beside her bed

I was with my grandmother for the passing itself and for the couple weeks leading up to her death. I slept on the floor by her bed as my mother could have a break. I was sitting beside her when she took her last breath. All I

Read story

I never got to say good bye

I never got to say good bye

Last year I planned a trip to visit my grandmother in the UK. We went to Europe and unfortunately due to the bank holiday my grandmother had been taken to another hospital for her treatment. She later passed thanksgiving. I felt as though I never got to

Read story

We are a reflection of the little choices we make

We are a reflection of the little choices we make

Dearest Prabhanna, Your loss was sudden, unfathomable, yet bit like a ton of bricks. You were only 40 when you passed due to myocardial infarcts, and your lust for life only makes it sadder. We are a reflection of all the little choices we make. You were

Read story

The toughest thing to see is a mother walking away

The toughest thing to see is a mother walking away

The worst decision a parent is asked to make is when to pull the plug on their 7 year old fighting brain cancer. The toughest thing to see is a mother walking away from the hospital after her only son passes away!

Read story

I still remember how hopeful he was

I still remember how hopeful he was

Is of my maternal grandfather who died 23 years ago. I still remember how hopeful he was and how hopeful I was he would be OK; only to have both of our hopes dashed when he died a month and a half after being diagnosed with cancer.

Read story