Creating space to pause, reflect and share experiences with dying and death

Grief

Grief

You heard my goodbye

You heard my goodbye

Nonna, I miss you every day. I would like to say each day has been easier but it hasn’t. I know in my heart, you had the best of care & you heard my goodbye. Mom misses you. A lot. She was so strong & took such

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I did tell you I loved you

I did tell you I loved you

Mom, I never got to say good-bye, safe journey before you died… but I did tell you I loved you! I left & came here to the conference. I never expected you to die that weekend. I should have “known” but you & God had other plans.

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Still my heart aches

Still my heart aches

Dearest “Lambbone”: It’s been 10+ years since your untimely death & still my heart aches. Your journey as a clown doctor in palliative care gave me the strength to do this work. You passed on a gift to your big sis! I thank you for opening this

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To have a positive impact on others

To have a positive impact on others

My mother died suddenly in 2001. I was only 22 at the time. She never got to see me get married, have children, graduate university, start a career. It, her death, has certainly impacted my life’s path. Wanting to embrace the time we have with no regrets.

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We all sat with you

We all sat with you

Dylan, You would think it’s really cheesy that I’m writing this, but here I go. When we all sat with you in the hospital and then the palliative unit, our concern was only that you weren’t in pain and that you weren’t frightened. We never questioned whether

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I just wish I knew

I just wish I knew

I just wish I knew then that I know now when my grandmother was dying 20 years ago.

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I was not given any time to grieve

I was not given any time to grieve

My mom passed away over 20 years ago, I was only 15. And 3 months later I had to leave my country to migrate to Canada, therefore separating me from my siblings. I felt that I was not given any time to grieve, but also forced to

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I still miss her

I still miss her

Losing my grandmother was the first real impact that death had in my life. I still miss her and see her in bed. She was able to die at home the way she wanted-20 years ago.

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It gives me long pause to think

It gives me long pause to think

When I think of how fast the years have passed- and are passing- and many moments, days, and sometimes years, I’ve wasted not saying things that need to be said and doing things that need to be done…It gives me long pause to think. And sometimes chills.

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We cried together

We cried together

I had the privilege of visiting a resident in hospice 1x per week for 6 weeks. I ended up getting a promotion and leaving the retirement residence. During the party for my last day this lovely ladies family managed to bring her to see me 1 last

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