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I miss all the fun you had

I miss all the fun you had

My loss of my mother is not physical. She suffers from severe dementia and does not know me. Mom, I miss all the fun you had with me and Keri. The time you picked Keri up in a clown costume at Halloween was the best! Your grandaughter

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I continually think of lessons they have taught me

I continually think of lessons they have taught me

My Grandparents- they would often speak about times when they will be gone- but I continually think of lessons they have taught me to become the person I am. Very greatful to have had them part of my life.

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You wish you could take the pain for them

You wish you could take the pain for them

Its hard to watch a loved one go through their stages alone. You feel helpless because you don’t know what they are experiencing. Your only a spectater. You wish you could take the pain for them. Just to give them a break from their reality. Waiting for

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A good death has a few key moments

A good death has a few key moments

As a caregiver I have been witness to a “good” death and a “bad” death. A good death has a few key moments Understanding/honesty Preparation/pain control Love from all that surround Acceptance from all that surround A bad death although at times unavoidable follows the living far

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What an honour it was to hold your hand

What an honour it was to hold your hand

Mom, You brought me into this world. What an honour it was to hold your hand and exchange care giver roles as you allowed me to hold you as you left this world. I reflect on that time as the most sincere and loving between is- forever

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The body is purely a vessel

The body is purely a vessel

I was not presented when my mother passed. In order to be present with her, I visited and viewed her deceased body in the hospital morgue. I realized upon seeing her the body is purely a ‘vessel’ to hold someone’s mind and spirit. It was also a

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Their passing was not easy

Their passing was not easy

Their passing was not easy, and not free of pain due to resources not being available. When people pass in their homes, especially cancer patients making sure that whatever medications to make the transition pain free is crucial.

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I met him when he was still well

I met him when he was still well

As a nurse for over 20 years I have cared for many people in many settings from birth to death. One client and his family always remain fresh in my memory. It was a palliative client and I met him when he was still well and was

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We keep his memory alive

We keep his memory alive

16 years ago my husband lost his father, my children their grandfather and myself a wonderful father-in-law. His wishes were to pass at home, to be still able to look out the window and watch the lake outside. He had homecare service as well as family caregivers

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I slept on the floor beside her bed

I slept on the floor beside her bed

I was with my grandmother for the passing itself and for the couple weeks leading up to her death. I slept on the floor by her bed as my mother could have a break. I was sitting beside her when she took her last breath. All I

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