Creating space to pause, reflect and share experiences with dying and death

Wisdom

Wisdom

It’s like watching a monument crumble

It’s like watching a monument crumble

1.     You don’t really know how special it is to feel alive until you see a strong figure widdle away. It’s like watching a monument crumble very slowly; I miss ya grandpa… you always had a presence about you but your brain had a very big flaw.

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Dying is easy

Dying is easy

I was dead for about 20 minutes, or so they told me later. Dying is easy. Recuperating is hard. Stop smoking. It’s not worth it.  

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Live each day

Live each day

Watching one of my best friends die last fall has changed me in so many ways. I want to live each day like it is my last…

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Others will come to meet you

Others will come to meet you

He said, “I don’t want to die.” He said, “I don’t know how. I wish someone would give me a map.” I had no map to give — only words I had read: “I believe that others will come to meet you and show you the way.

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Live more deeply

Live more deeply

Having seen the “tunnel of light” and brought back to life. I fear death no more. But also live more deeply, fully and mindfully.

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When my mind goes, I’m out of here

When my mind goes, I’m out of here

As my dad, given less than 6 months and had lived 5 years. He lay in bed his last 6 weeks. A time of words and opportunities. Heart said and felt. Love shared doing normal things. When he said “I am lucky but when my mind goes,

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How much time do we have?

How much time do we have?

For me there is a comfort in sadness. There is comfort knowing the end is inevitable for all of us and we all come to the same place. I teared up with the piece missing the person in the photo. It is so simply and cleanly shows

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For years my arms ached and my heart cried

For years my arms ached and my heart cried

I had never attended the death of my child before. I didn’t always do it right. I didn’t always know what to do. So I did as I had done throughout your life. I sang to you, I stroked your hair, but I didn’t hold you. Moving

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Life is wonderful, live it!

Life is wonderful, live it!

I am grateful to have had two “opportunities” in the last six years to deal with my mortality. I now know that life is short & small, and that to be at all ungrateful for any day is a serious error of judgment. Life is wonderful! Live

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The tables were turned

The tables were turned

Funny thing eh!! I’ve teaching a course on grief loss and death for 21 years, but I was not prepared for the exhibit — too visual; the tables were turned on my concepts. Could be because I had the flu, but some letters of reflection penetrated —

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