Creating space to pause, reflect and share experiences with dying and death

Letters

Letters

We paddled across the lake together in unison

We paddled across the lake together in unison

Caron: I miss you so much. You were my partner in life. We always laughed at the same things. We loved a glass of red wine together. We paddled across the lake in unison. I love you. Sister

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Your number is still my speed dial

Your number is still my speed dial

Dearest friend & brother, Mark — I couldn’t let you go Never got to say Godspeed Do you know now the impact you had on us all? The 5 am calls are missed — your number is still my speed dial #5 Our mantra “I’ll give you

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You needed to know how much you were loved

You needed to know how much you were loved

Rhonda-Lee How grateful I am for our friendship! I was blessed to share your last days and I believe we needed each other equally. You needed to know how much you were loved and I needed to show you! I love you

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Weren’t we lucky

Weren’t we lucky

Hey Dad — Weren’t we lucky to be together when you drew your last, laboured breath? I am eternally grateful for all that you did for me; for all that we shared; and for all of the memories I will cherish — until I take my last,

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You’d be back in time for supper

You’d be back in time for supper

To my daddy I will never forget that morning, when you walked out the door, saying you’d be back in time for supper… Then the phone call that your plane had crashed… and seeing you with 3rd degree burns on 90% of your body. You died 3

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The trees outside your window

The trees outside your window

Dear Aunt Brenda… “Tom Brown” — big brother of Copie (Suzie) — she will be waiting for you, is already there with something dreadful & funny wrapped in a Kleenex. She will say “Hi Tom” to her big sister/brother & you will both laugh & hug for

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You are still with us!

You are still with us!

Mom – thanks for showing me how to live fearlessly, boldly, and “in charge” until one’s last breath. I’m sorry that I didn’t comprehend what you were trying to tell us when you “woke up” in those last hours. Maybe we each are supposed to draw our

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You survived but did not live

You survived but did not live

Dad – I’m so sorry I let you down at your end of life – I let them put a feeding tube in when I should have just held your hand. You survived but did not live. I promise I will help others through this fear &

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I never left your side

I never left your side

My dearest love, In your scariest moments, in your worst pain, even when you could no longer open your eyes and see me… I was there. I never left your side. My hand was on your heart as you took your last breath. You were never alone.

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Life without Grandma

Life without Grandma

Mom: when you were taken away so suddenly by death, I thought that my life had no meaning. Though I had a husband and two sons, the absence of your presence was very hard to take. Not just by me but by the whole family. Especially by

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