Creating space to pause, reflect and share experiences with dying and death

Importance of relationships

Importance of relationships

I love you always

I love you always

To my mom I love you now I love you always The day will come when you will no longer be here with me. It pains me to think of my life without you in it. I cherish now, and will cherish always the memories and especially

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I don’t think I’ll be able to

I don’t think I’ll be able to

I don’t think I’ll be able to handle my parent’s passing.  

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I don’t know how to help him

I don’t know how to help him

I don’t feel like I have dealt with death a lot on a theoretical level I feel like we should be able to talk about death but in practice not so much. My dad specifically has lost and been in need of talking, I don’t know how

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I adored visiting you both

I adored visiting you both

I visited you both in Long Term Care because I wanted to …not because I had to. I adored visiting you both. When dad was gone then I visited just mum…suffering from Alzheimer’s but always her beautiful, calm self. Miss you both.  

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He stayed as long as he could for us

He stayed as long as he could for us

I will always remember my father’s death. It was a painful ending to a noble life. His life had its share of difficult times. His death was hard too at the end. But he stayed as long as he could for us. Love you.  

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Connections made can be as strong

Connections made can be as strong

We hadn’t spoken for a long time before the last time, then I found out that you had passed away. You taught me that the connections made can be as strong as one of family. I’m now writing this with chosen family of my own. I miss

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An early morning in spring

An early morning in spring

My father died on a Monday. An early morning in spring- just as the day began, just as people were busy scurrying. I think about how many babies were born at that exact moment. How many of them had his curly black hair and dark coffee skin

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Remembering the lucid, visible moments

Remembering the lucid, visible moments

Made me think of losing parts of my mother to dementia but remembering the lucid, visible, wholesome moments when she was bright and connected with me. Thank you,

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You died with the dignity you wanted

You died with the dignity you wanted

Dear Mom, Days like today bring you close to me. I’m still glad to be your daughter. Love and legacy never dies and in your dying, I again was gifted to witness your strength. You died with the dignity you wanted; clean underwear, your weekly bath, nurses

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The care he needed to live at home

The care he needed to live at home

It was a joy to watch John live for the 4 years he had after diagnosis. Helping him organize his travels, the care he needed to live at home was important to all his friends. He talked openly about how he found a way to live with

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