Creating space to pause, reflect and share experiences with dying and death

Importance of relationships

Importance of relationships

You helped provide a basis

You helped provide a basis

You both helped me so much, during your lives (together), and after your lives as well. You both helped provide a basis for my understanding of the world, one that is compassionate and curious, but also profoundly affected by what you experienced as children. I miss you

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The how is long forgotten

The how is long forgotten

It is long time since my parents passed. By now, the “how” is long forgotten, although it was painful at the time. But I thank them every day for the gifts of generosity, caring and that magical ability to look beyond themselves. They were both active in

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My father died on a Monday

My father died on a Monday

My father died on a Monday. A late in the  

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Miss you all

Miss you all

Dear Maurice, Daniel, Ginny, Mum, Dad… Miss you all.  

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Ken always came for breakfast

Ken always came for breakfast

I was twelve- Ken always came for breakfast but he didn’t show up. I went up to his room to see if he was OK. He wasn’t. He had shot himself through the head. His false teeth were in a glass. Pictures of the liberation of Aushwitz

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I’ll see you sooner than I thought

I’ll see you sooner than I thought

I miss you mom. Hug dad, uncle Nick and Aunt Assienta. I have a little cancer- so I’ll see you sooner than I thought. Guess I should beware of wishes  

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I still live in the past

I still live in the past

Dad, I’ll never know the relationship we could have had over the last 10 years not speaking. I couldn’t look you in the eye and feel safe anymore after the pain you put me through. Without your apology, I still live in the past. I’ve moved away

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I was not able to let go in the process of grieving

I was not able to let go in the process of grieving

Life shall be full of joy and great memory. I was so painful when I lost my father and brother. These must be the biggest impacts in my life to face sudden losing of two dear men figures. I was not able to let go in the

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I remember going into a panicked shock

I remember going into a panicked shock

I was seven years old when I first experienced death. My cousins sat me down, because the adults were arguing and angry. Some of them were even crying. I asked my cousins what happened, they said our grandfather fell down the stairs back home and died bringing

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I only knew him as an old man

I only knew him as an old man

I learned my grandfather was a Nazi only after he died. I only knew him as an old man with big glasses who put sugar on his salad, but so many knew him as Hate.  

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