Creating space to pause, reflect and share experiences with dying and death

Regret

Regret

Die with dignity

Die with dignity

Ron, I am sorry that you were not  afforded  the right to die with dignity as you should have been. Please know  there is an array working to ensure others are. XO

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I wish I did more

I wish I did more

I wish I was more patient with you. I wish I pushed harder to get you help. I wish I lived in the moment more with you. I wish I did more.

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I only wish I had taken the opportunity

I only wish I had taken the opportunity

The nurses in palliative care who paid no mind to official visiting hours as my mom slipped away. I only wish I had taken more advantage of the opportunity.

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We took our youth and time for granted

We took our youth and time for granted

How quick it all happened and the immediate regret of us not hanging out more, because we took our youth and time for granted. “It was great coming by again, see you in a few days. We’ll try to make something work.” Last words. Sound familiar? He

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I regret not knowing you better

I regret not knowing you better

Not asking enough questions about your life. Not knowing you better. Not calling often enough. If I did I would have more (deeper) memories, it hurts me that I didn’t.

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You were my first palliative patient

You were my first palliative patient

You were my first palliative patient. We discussed your symptoms and your pain but I failed to discuss what made you, you. On your last few days you had video games stacked next to your bed. I had no idea you were a gamer. By the time

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I regret not informing him he was dying

I regret not informing him he was dying

My Regret – That I was present as a Healthcare provider (RN) (liaison for the family) rather than as a daughter at my father’s bedside when he was dying. I also regret not informing him that he was dying – missed opportunity to allow each other to

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He was such a quiet, humble man

He was such a quiet, humble man

I remember everyone wondering how I coped so well after my father passed away two years ago, Some people openly commented about how strong I was, others just gave me fleeting looks of empathy and concern during a pause in our conversations. My apparent resilience made me

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He fulfilled his wish and passed away at home

He fulfilled his wish and passed away at home

My grandfather. He was a silent, kind, loving man. He looked after all children & grand-children with a very humble, quiet demeanor. I’m glad that he fulfilled his wish of passing away at home. I’m sorry I missed saying goodbye by one hour. He has left a

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He didn’t recognize me when I saw him

He didn’t recognize me when I saw him

The last time I saw my grandpa. It was about a year before he passed away. He lived in Hong Kong at the time. Staying at a senior home. I was visiting him with my parents, having come all the way from Toronto. He had dementia. He

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