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Your eyes widened

Your eyes widened

Dad, you lay in a hospice bed, restless, confused at most times, picking things in the air, fighting for breath as your lungs filled up — your eyes widened when your two youngest walked in the room. It took a moment of coughing and rambling – as […]

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Still in my heart

Still in my heart

This children who have past: Make me stronger Make me find new ways to help their pain Make me reflect on life Make me believe in a better health system Make me meditate Make me laugh and cry Make me bring back my inner child Make me […]

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Maybe they are there

Maybe they are there

I wish I had done more for my parents. I did the best I could. I am working on making a garden for them, and when I am in this garden, I think of them and imagine how much they would have loved to be there. Maybe […]

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Holding the hands, wiping the tears

Holding the hands, wiping the tears

That while I spend most of the hours of my week holding the hands, wiping the tears & sitting with the suffering of my dying patients and their families, & that gives me perspective on the sanctity & beauty of life. I cannot seem to translate this […]

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You died slowly – a piece at a time

You died slowly – a piece at a time

Dad; I miss you! For all the ways I hurt you or disappointed you I am sorry You were my rock and my strength Watching you fade away was so difficult. You died slowly – a piece at a time Your legacy lives on in my children […]

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I promise to be there for our family more

I promise to be there for our family more

Dee, I wish you could have stayed longer. The Creator took you home too soon. I regret not bring there before it was too late…But I am grateful I spent your last couple of weeks with you. You are our warrior princess and you were taken too […]

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Music was playing

Music was playing

We were there when my mom passed, she was getting ready for her journey. Music was playing, other residents and nurses came by to visit her. She made her mark. We told her it was alright to leave us, one last breath and a big smile. 

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What a wonderful gift

What a wonderful gift

I remember your wonderful smile and how easily you told us you loved us. As your time grew near, you held off long enough to see all your grandchildren and great-grandchildren so you could tell them you loved them. What a wonderful gift! They still talk about […]

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The simplest things can ease the situation

The simplest things can ease the situation

My father-in-law passed away suddenly. The whole family was still reeling from the loss of another family member. We gathered at the funeral home – everyone was so distraught. The small children were so unsure and upset. I asked for some paper and pens and layed on […]

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I miss her deeply

I miss her deeply

My daughter-in-law, Terina, who spent time scrap-booking and writing special letters to her children (13 and 14) to make sure they would remember her as they matured and recall all the wonderful times they had as a family as well as some intimate personal times she shared […]

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