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Creating space to pause, reflect and share experiences with dying and death

Reflecting

Reflecting

I still miss her

I still miss her

Losing my grandmother was the first real impact that death had in my life. I still miss her and see her in bed. She was able to die at home the way she wanted-20 years ago.

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It gives me long pause to think

It gives me long pause to think

When I think of how fast the years have passed- and are passing- and many moments, days, and sometimes years, I’ve wasted not saying things that need to be said and doing things that need to be done…It gives me long pause to think. And sometimes chills.

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It empowered me

It empowered me

It was my honour and privilege to be able to support my father and honour my grandmother’s wishes. My father is not able to discuss dying but my grandmother and I often had open conversations about her wishes. It empowered me to hear her sense of control […]

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They were all mothers

They were all mothers

I had 5 women I knew die within a year. They were all mothers, all in their 40’s. I was 45. It changed my life. I re-prioritized my life, declined a bigger more important job and focused on what was most important to me –my 3 children […]

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You left with dignity

You left with dignity

Although as my adoptive mom/stepmother, I was never really sure where we stood in terms of our relationship and never really felt close, your passing brought the family together in a bonding moment. And you seemed to not want to put any of us through your departure […]

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How will I be remembered

How will I be remembered

When I think of death, my own death specifically I think of life, my life…How will I be remembered or thought of…what will my legacy be? It causes me some anxiety when I pause and reflect. Life, death so entertwined I want to be thoughtful in my […]

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Time helps

Time helps

Death is a gift that allows people to be release from pain and sadness. It most importantly, allows the survivors to experience the life that they were predestined to live. This difficult to understand in the midst of grief with the loss of a loved one, whether […]

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You said goodbye

You said goodbye

I wasn’t there at first. You waited. I finally got there, You were there for me I stayed. You said goodbye. I remember.

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I was the little girl

I was the little girl

I lost my hero 2 years ago. Dad had COPD with 30% lung function. He showed signs and symptoms of a cold on a Wednesday. Cold turned to pneumonia on Saturday, ICU Sunday died the following Thursday. My world stopped, even though my eyes saw people on […]

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I look back to that night

I look back to that night

The first patient who passed in my presence….. 5 y.o boy…I thought I will never go back to nursing, instead I am in palliative care. Whenever I am in doubt of what I am doing in life I look back to that night, to that little boy […]

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