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Creating space to pause, reflect and share experiences with dying and death

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How can we change

How can we change

Brian, Evergreen Board Chair (until December 14, 2016) “What’s in it for the client and their family?” “How can we change to serve more people?” “How can we make the bureaucratic monster move to provide better care?” We miss your focus, your caring nature and your sense […]

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Fear of loss

Fear of loss

Etched clearly in my heart & mind forever… Walking & supporting my mom through a 4 yr journey with terminal ovarian CA diagnosis. The hope, the fight, the successful & failed treatment Emotional struggles & fear of unknown Fear of loss, What I learned: Be honest, live […]

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It’s not the telling

It’s not the telling

More and more I wish that practitioners would give patients and families the gift of time by having the discussion with them that they are dying. This breaks my heart each time families “just found out” their loved on was dying, and it is an emotional turmoil […]

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They were all mothers

They were all mothers

I had 5 women I knew die within a year. They were all mothers, all in their 40’s. I was 45. It changed my life. I re-prioritized my life, declined a bigger more important job and focused on what was most important to me –my 3 children […]

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We always knew we loved each other

We always knew we loved each other

When my Dad was diagnosed with incurable cancer a co-worker advised me to take the time to say to my Dad, everything I wanted to say. Among the things I said were that he was the greatest man I have ever known, and that I loved him. […]

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Its just a phase

Its just a phase

Life is to be celebrated. Lived. Loved. And death not to be feared. It’s just a phase, changing into a new form to bring to life new adventures, the next phase of learning, of soulful growth. This perspective brings new joy and celebration to our lives-and deaths. […]

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It was my ego

It was my ego

For all those who have passed away sorry for my childish tears! Now that I’m an adult I realise it was my Ego who couldn’t accept that I will never see you again. Rest in peace. You and the past.  

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I never told the hardest parts

I never told the hardest parts

Although I tell parts of my family’s story in public, I realized that I never told the hardest parts, the ones I most needed someone to hear. Eventually I was invited by Phil Doyer, author of Conversations on Dying to not censor myself. Writing it all out […]

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There is no right or wrong way to die

There is no right or wrong way to die

After 10 years working to help people in their dying process, I think there is no right was or wrong way to die. All we really have is the love and memories we share. Love is bigger than regret, bigger than fear. Not every sorrow is comforted, […]

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Rainbows remind me of you

Rainbows remind me of you

I miss you… you’ve been gone almost 10 years but I still miss you. I still want to call you or send you an email. I miss your smile and our talks. I regret not going to the hospital early that day & not seeing you one […]

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